This week’s Frost Advisory is authored by my colleague T.J. Holland, a very smart fellow indeed.

“When nobody is effectively ‘in charge’, you’re bound to get more people arguing over how things should be done.”
~Dean Burnett PhD.

You may have come to expect (and accept) that every election cycle will bring more and more mudslinging.  Yet this cycle, it seems the slung mud is inside the parties nearly as much as at the opposition party.  This sort of circular firing squad mentality is becoming part of the process as well.  Almost everyday there is a series of leaked documents that expose the internal espionage inside the parties.

Thankfully, WikiLeaks hasn’t released private messages within our own organizations.

Does your workplace suffer from your own form of infighting?  This is more than a programming versus sales discussion.

It’s about separate camps forming within because of lack of vision and leaders that unite.

Infighting is part of a larger type of group psychology.  Dean Burnett commented on political infighting in his recent article in The Guardian, “Why Political Parties Fall Apart:  the Psychology of Infighting.”

Are the current crop of politicians sufficiently capable “leaders”? A reliance on presentation and spin may mean they have an easier ride from most voters, but these qualities don’t automatically make you a strong leader.  In times of uncertainty (which seems to be 24/7 at the moment) a strong leader is very important for group unity.

It’s not surprising that curbing disunity comes down to leadership that is engaged.

How often do we spin poor ratings or a lackluster fundraising effort with spin instead of addressing the underlying issues behind the results?   The conversations after the explanation usually aren’t about how everyone bought into it.

Do we accept the results of a poor internal employee survey as a need for more self-awareness and change, or do simply send out a memo to the team letting them know “they’ve been heard” (or worse, conducting a “witch hunt” to find the dissenters)?  Does this lack of directness bring unity or division from those who are targeted?

After hearing breaks that consistently miss the opportunity to connect emotionally, do we take the time to coach up talent or do we shoulder shrug and complain about not having enough hours in a day to get the job done?  Your talent ends up alienated and silos are built.  It’s better to catch them doing something right and point that out.  That’s an easy first step.

It’s so easy to throw the word around, yet it’s really a challenge to a lead.  Be in charge, as your strong leadership will be the difference between a united workplace, or overseeing a group even Julian Assange would shake his head at.

Reckon’ it’s happened to us all.

I have Facebook friends whose political rants make me want to hit them with a baseball bat.  Metaphorically, of course.

My friend Randy’s FB tirades are the most extreme left-wing drivel you can imagine.  My friend Gort, a self-described liberal, has totally blocked his rants and hides under the bed when he calls.  And they are best friends!

My friend Cooper is as right-wing as a one-legged chicken.  He can’t even mention Hillary’s name without the liberal (pardon the expression) use of expletives.  #@#$#@%$@.

Their diametrically opposed views are so categorically biased you’d think that Hillary and Donald were worthy of challenging Mother Theresa on sainthood.

What can we programmers learn from this silly little journey into social media mud rucking?

A better way to spend our time than a Facebook rant, I’d say.

What if it was the other way around?

What if everything we heard was something we knew was true in our hearts?  What if every time they spoke we felt like they had been talking directly to us?  What if we consistently heard things that affirmed our identify, encouraged us in our daily challenges, and gave us a glimpse at the best version of ourselves?

“The people we surround ourselves with either raise or lower our standards.  They either help us become the best-version-of-ourselves or become lesser versions of ourselves.  We all need people in our lives who raise our standards, who remind us of our eternal purpose, and challenge us to become the best version-of-ourselves.”
~John Maxwell

What if those things of value came from our favorite radio station?

My friends at KLTY in Dallas are giving $500 to listeners to help a friend.  Even though the listener also receives $500, that is not the part that is resonating.  They’ve tapped into their listeners’ value system that helping a friend is a meaningful thing to do.

KLTY is helping their listeners become a better version of themselves.

Or, we could just post another rant on Facebook!

It’s an interesting idea.

Andy Andrews says, “Don’t believe everything you think.  What you think is what you know.  And wisdom goes beyond what you know.”

They say that there really are no marital problems, only people problems that two imperfect people bring into a marriage.

After more than 40 years in radio I’ve come to realize that there really are no programming problems; only problems that people bring into programming discussions.

They seem to fall into these key areas:

1. Insecurity.  Often it is the “Peter Principle”, those that are successful at a lower level but then promoted to their own level of incompetency where they remain.  These are those who don’t know, know they don’t know, but work tirelessly to not be found out.  Oh, the stories I could tell.
2. Experience (or lack of).  These people learned programming principles decades ago and are threatened by new concepts.  They tend to divert back to what they did in “the old days” because it is comfortable.  Unfortunately it is also forever their frame of reference.
3. Work ethic.  When someone touts a programming philosophy that ultimately means they don’t have to work as hard, I know it’s not a real philosophy.  The best work we do is always the hardest work we do.

“People are more comfortable with old problems than they are with new solutions.”
~John Maxwell

Does any of this sound like your radio station?  I’d love to hear from you.  Confidential, of course.